Do You Pull Together — or Apart?

1. Your partner storms into the house and slams the door. He's obviously had a bad day. You:

a. Glare at him or her, avoid altogether or get angry — and let him or her know how you feel.
b. Don’t get upset; you simply ask if he or she wants to talk about it.

2. You and your live-in love have been watching an extremely depressing segment on the evening news. You:

a. Silently watch
b. Argue over each other’s interpretation of events
c. Cuddle and talk about what you see
d. Skirt your partner’s attempts to talk about the tragedy you’re watching

3. Your spouse was supposed to meet you at your favorite restaurant at 7 pm sharp. It's 7:20, and he or she's not there. You:

a. Figure that there has to be a good reason for the delay and wait for a ring on your cell phone.
b. Get upset and worry that something is wrong, like he or she’s hurt or with another someone else
c. Get upset and worry but don’t jump to conclusions. You start trying to track him or her down
d. Leave a curt message on voice mail and depart.

4. After a particularly bad visit with the accountant, you realize you owe more taxes than you thought - or can afford. How do you react?

a. One of you blames the other — or you both blame each other — for this financial snafu
b. One of you suggests a major lifestyle overhaul
c. You freak out and immediately ask your family for a loan — without telling your husband about the screwup
d. You both take the time to figure out how you got into this fiscal pickle, what it will take to correct it and how best to avoid something similar in the future

5. Your roommate from college is extremely ill, and there's a chance she'll die. You:

a. Don’t share this with your partner. She’s your friend; it’s your grief. He or she probably wouldn’t understand anyway.
b. Mention the situation abruptly and hit him or her with the full force of your sadness.
c. . Feel at ease asking for comfort; he or she knows how much she means to you.
d. Tell your mate bits and pieces but save most of your grief and venting for another friend.

6. When you feel your lover has really hurt or betrayed you, you

a. Tell him or her specifically why you’re angry and, if necessary, suggest that the two of you go to couples counseling.
b. Yell

1. Your partner storms into the house and slams the door. He's obviously had a bad day. You:

b. Don’t get upset; you simply ask if he or she wants to talk about it.

2. You and your live-in love have been watching an extremely depressing segment on the evening news. You:

c. Cuddle and talk about what you see

3. Your spouse was supposed to meet you at your favorite restaurant at 7 pm sharp. It's 7:20, and he or she's not there. You:

a. Figure that there has to be a good reason for the delay and wait for a ring on your cell phone.

4. After a particularly bad visit with the accountant, you realize you owe more taxes than you thought - or can afford. How do you react?

d. You both take the time to figure out how you got into this fiscal pickle, what it will take to correct it and how best to avoid something similar in the future

5. Your roommate from college is extremely ill, and there's a chance she'll die. You:

c. . Feel at ease asking for comfort; he or she knows how much she means to you.

6. When you feel your lover has really hurt or betrayed you, you

a. Tell him or her specifically why you’re angry and, if necessary, suggest that the two of you go to couples counseling.

1. Your partner storms into the house and slams the door. He's obviously had a bad day. You:

a. Glare at him or her, avoid altogether or get angry — and let him or her know how you feel.
b. Don’t get upset; you simply ask if he or she wants to talk about it.
I think my answer might be inbetween those... I definately would ask what's going on... going into my support mode.. however if they are tight lips and appear to need some time to stew about it.. I'll also give them space.. (not exactly ignore... but.. you get the idea)

2. You and your live-in love have been watching an extremely depressing segment on the evening news. You:

a. Silently watch
b. Argue over each other’s interpretation of events
c. Cuddle and talk about what you see
d. Skirt your partner’s attempts to talk about the tragedy you’re watching
if it effects us... we'd talk about it.... it would depend on the tragedy if we cuddled or not

3. Your spouse was supposed to meet you at your favorite restaurant at 7 pm sharp. It's 7:20, and he or she's not there. You:

a. Figure that there has to be a good reason for the delay and wait for a ring on your cell phone.
b. Get upset and worry that something is wrong, like he or she’s hurt or with another someone else
c. Get upset and worry but don’t jump to conclusions. You start trying to track him or her down
d. Leave a curt message on voice mail and depart.
c. Now if I get no reply and more time goes on.. I may move to one of the others

4. After a particularly bad visit with the accountant, you realize you owe more taxes than you thought - or can afford. How do you react?

a. One of you blames the other — or you both blame each other — for this financial snafu
b. One of you suggests a major lifestyle overhaul
c. You freak out and immediately ask your family for a loan — without telling your husband about the screwup
d. You both take the time to figure out how you got into this fiscal pickle, what it will take to correct it and how best to avoid something similar in the future
d

5. Your roommate from college is extremely ill, and there's a chance she'll die. You:

a. Don’t share this with your partner. She’s your friend; it’s your grief. He or she probably wouldn’t understand anyway.
b. Mention the situation abruptly and hit him or her with the full force of your sadness.
c. . Feel at ease asking for comfort; he or she knows how much she means to you.
d. Tell your mate bits and pieces but save most of your grief and venting for another friend.
c

6. When you feel your lover has really hurt or betrayed you, you

a. Tell him or her specifically why you’re angry and, if necessary, suggest that the two of you go to couples counseling.
b. Yell
a... w/o the couples counseling... not that that isn't a bad idea but i've never done it..